Bob Dylan - It Ain’t Me, Babe
Go melt back into the night
everything inside is made of stone.
There’s nothing in here moving
and anyway I’m not alone.
You say you’re looking for someone
who’ll pick you up each time you fall,
to gather flowers constantly
and to come each time you call.
A lover for your life and nothing more,
But it ain’t me you’re looking for.
Q:If you could be any animal, what animal would you /truly/ want to be, excluding the human being.
Truly? Are we implying it wouldn’t be a frog?
It’s a bit of a tough question, because I think of values as being derived from our nature - what I value, I value because I am human, and valuing the same things I do now with as anything else wouldn’t be as ‘right’. I try pretty hard to be the best human I can, so it’s hard for me to imagine simply swapping out that goal for another.
The one thing that came immediately to mind, however, was phyllobates terribilis - the Golden Poison Frog, arguably the most toxic animal on Earth. Because these animals are so poisonous - one frog carries enough toxin to kill over a dozen people - predators completely avoid them. This virtual invulnerability makes them bold and curious and proud; things I admire in humans, and no less in amphibians. I try to live by the philosophy of trusting everyone and simply being strong enough to be wrong from time to time - and it strikes me that that is precisely what these tiny little frogs are able to do.
Q:how can a person be in love with someone they barely know?
I believe “in love” is a feeling. Asking how someone can be in love is like asking how someone could be angry or happy or sad - it’s either true or it isn’t, regardless of ‘how’. While it’s always useful to understand the reasons behind those feelings, that one doesn’t understand them doesn’t change that they exist, and doesn’t change that they exist for a reason. Of course the question as to how to act upon them is another thing entirely.
"In love" is probably the feeling I understand the least - I know how it feels, I think I know what it does, but I find it hard to pinpoint precisely what factors trigger it. Without identifying those factors - and what they mean to the individuals involved - it’s hard to say whether ‘barely knowing’ someone is relevant to it or not. Most of us tend to think it is, but then we’re also enamored with the premise of ‘love at first sight’.
I think it’s important to clarify that “in love” is not just a state of knowing someone very well - you don’t just know someone better and better and better until you’re in love. Being in love is a feeling, and while knowing someone very well certainly increases the chances that that feeling will be present (if it’s going to be), at no point does familiarity guarantee love nor love guarantee familiarity. Personally I believe that wanting to know someone - completely: body, mind, heart, and soul - is part of the feeling of love, but that does not mean the person you feel that for is always the person you know best.
Again though, love is only a feeling - in the same way that anger doesn’t always mean you should punch someone out, love doesn’t always mean you should be marry them. If it’s true that one is in love with someone they barely know, then getting to know them better seems like a more appropriate course of action than immediately committing to them. Like always, feelings exist not to dictate our actions, but to aid in our understanding; I think working to understand one’s feelings and to act on those understandings is always preferable to blindly following the feelings themselves.
Squeeze Box - The Who
"Come on and squeeze me…"
In short, I want to give you a piece of advice about how to make your life better. The advice of this article is a very simple one. So simple, in fact, that I put it into the title. Being a gamer is an awesome thing. It gives you great life skills. What I’ve discovered, though, is that many gamers don’t apply all the awesome gaming skills they’ve acquired to their lives. The point of this article is to say, “Stop doing that. You have awesome game skills. If you apply them to your life, I think you might be happier.”
She’s Always a Woman - Billy Joel
"She’ll carelessly cut you and laugh while you’re bleedin’…"
High Hopes - Pink Floyd
"The ringing of the division bell had begun…"